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Am I Obsessed with My Ex | Ep 03

Are you finding yourself preoccupied with your ex in a way that it's hijacking your brain and getting in the way of the life you want to live now? What are some red flags you need to look out for? Are you going to let go or be dragged?  Today I talk about how to identify whether you're obsessed with your ex.



  • Red flags
  • Why we do this
  • Grief and loss


  • Are you talking about your ex to friends and family a lot?
  • Are you trying to find out about your ex on social media or asking friends and neighbors?
  • Are you turning to excessive drinking or eating?


“Consider the costs of this preoccupation with your ex.”

  • You want to make sense of what happened and regain control
  • You want to gain a sense of justice and dignity and make sure that your story is heard
  • You want to feel a connection


When we let go of and stop being preoccupied with your ex, there can be a sense of loss. This grieving process is something you have to go through in order to move to the other side. 

If you are experiencing grief and loss, it’s important that you find a professional to support you.


About your host:

Susan Orenstein, Ph.D.

Dr. Susan Orenstein is a licensed psychologist and relationship expert  with over twenty years of experience. In 2005, she founded Orenstein Solutions, a private counseling practice in North Carolina that serves children, teens, adults and couples. 

She created the After the First Marriage Podcast to support individuals through the significant life transition of divorce. She whole-heartedly believes that “happily ever after” is an option for everyone, and is dedicated to helping divorcées regain the confidence to pursue a fulfilling future after the first marriage. 

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