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Keeping Hope Alive | Ep 04

Can you find hope after your first marriage has ended? How can you have hope? Why is it important to have hope when going through a difficult time? Today I talk about hope and optimism after the first marriage. 



  • Insecurities
  • Hope
  • Optimism
  • Your mindset
  • Roadmap for hope


When people are going through a divorce there is so much doubt, fear, anxiety, and sometimes even shame. All these insecurities are normal when going through this transition, and it’s important to not get trapped in this dark place.


“Hopefulness has this life sustaining strength and it helps us so that we can create goals, we can come up with strategies and we can have the confidence to follow through.”


Optimism is important in motivating us to learn, grow, and keep going. When you do not have this optimism, you have learned helplessness or the ‘giving up response’.


“It takes a mindset of some persistence and believing that there are going to be some setbacks, but those setbacks are just inherent and they’re temporary. And they’re not so much about you, but the situation.” 

I want to help you succeed and have you start thinking about goals and find ways to motivate yourself. In order for that to be achieved it takes a mindset of hope and optimism.

This, however, doesn’t mean that you won’t have a day where you are feeling negative, we all have setbacks, but when you’re going through a divorce, it’s helpful to pick yourself back up again and get back up on that bike.


  1. Accept that you’re imperfect
  2. Healing will take time
  3. There are opportunities for growth on this journey
  4. It’s important to have coping skills (self-compassion, self-care, grit, patience, frustration tolerance, humor, etc.)
  5. Develop your support system


About your host:

Susan Orenstein, Ph.D.

Dr. Susan Orenstein is a licensed psychologist and relationship expert  with over twenty years of experience. In 2005, she founded Orenstein Solutions, a private counseling practice in North Carolina that serves children, teens, adults and couples. 

She created the After the First Marriage Podcast to support individuals through the significant life transition of divorce. She whole-heartedly believes that “happily ever after” is an option for everyone, and is dedicated to helping divorcées regain the confidence to pursue a fulfilling future after the first marriage. 

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