MEET KATIE SROKA
Katie Sroka left an unhealthy marriage 2 years ago where she went through a long internal process of healing. Because of this, she found her passion as a life coach to guide women to rediscover themselves and connect back to their hearts.
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IN THIS PODCAST
- Katie’s lessons from the divorce
- Potential red flags
- Dating again
KATIE’S LESSONS FROM THE DIVORCE
“I think the biggest thing that I learned was to choose and love myself.”
In toxic relationships or relationships that are riddled with codependency, a person can be at risk of totally losing themselves, or losing touch with who they are outside of the dependent relationship.
A person needs to do the internal work to identify these patterns and set them straight. For Katie, she only started to really do the internal work after she left. She went to therapy and learned all the terminology to help her conceptualize the things she went through.
POTENTIAL RED FLAGS
“I think when you’re constantly putting someone else’s needs and wants before yours. There are of course times when you want an inter-dependent relationship where you’re depending on someone and they’re depending on you … but if you’re constantly giving yourself, you’re drained, you’re not taking care of yourself … and just always focused on the other person, that’s a big red flag.”
There is an imbalance, and if you do not take proper care of yourself, you cannot take care of other people – sincerely.
Many women are socialized to ignore red (or early pink) flags because they are taught to let things slide and not cause trouble, even when they may feel that the situation is potentially dangerous or not suited to them. Always be aware of these signals that your body and mind can send you.
Katie took more than a year to be alone and do the internal work and heal as much as she could before starting a potential new relationship.
When she started dating again, she noted any red flags that came up while maintaining and caring for her old wounds. She learned to trust her body and the messages her gut sends her about a situation. By listening to her gut and heart, Katie is able to feel whether she is feeling calm or not around a potential new person.